Can my EX be invited to our wedding? Generally, ex’s should not be invited to the wedding… even if the relationship is on “good terms”. It’s easier this way – to avoid complications or discomforts from your newlywed or kids involved or guests attending… But there’s no precise boundary on this one – Bruce Willis attended the wedding of his ex, Demi Moore, to new husband Ashton Kutcher. There’s no rules – although stay within your level of comfort.
What are the responsibilities of my Maid of Honour (MOH)? Prior to the wedding, MOH duties are to coordinate the Bridesmaids responsibilities, for example – organising the Bridal Shower / Hen’s party or arranging the bridesmaid’s dress fittings. That’s the easy part – whew, now where do we begin? Essentially, the MOH is the Bride’s right hand of support (wedding planning can be emotional at times). The MOH helps with any pre-wedding tasks, for example, addressing wedding invites. But on the wedding day, the MOH helps the Bride dress and arranges her veil too. The MOH walks down the aisle before the Bride, preparing the way for the Bride. Once the Bride has reached the altar, the MOH holds the Bride’s flower bouquet. During the vows, the MOH gives the groom’s ring to the Bride. The MOH is the witness, together with the Bestman, during the marriage license signing and also helps to organise the bridal party during the wedding photographs. During the reception, the MOH dances with the Bestman. The MOH helps to prepare the Bride’s outfit for the Honeymoon and then safe keeps her wedding gown and veil until the Bride’s arrival back from Honeymoon.
What are the responsibilities of the Bestman (BM)? The Groom and BM might expect the bachelor party their most central mission… however much to their dismay, the BM also helps with tasks like the outfit fitting, or transporting the attire. The BM also manages the rehearsal party toasts. During the wedding day, the BM ensures the Groom reaches the wedding venue ON TIME. During the vows, the BM gives the Bride’s ring to the Groom. The BM is the witness, together with the MOH during the marriage license signing. During the reception, the BM dances with the MOH but also is responsible for the first toast during the reception. In preparation of the Honeymoon, the BM ensures the transport and luggage is ready to depart with the newlyweds. Thereafter, the BM should return all rented attire or gear to the suppliers timely.
Does my Bridesmaid need to hold up my wedding dress whilst I pee? This all depends upon your style of wedding dress. If you’ve chosen a full ball-gown floor-length dress, then, yes, you will need an extra pair of hands to help hold up your wedding dress. Bu this means calling your Bridesmaid every time you want to go do your business. So another solution of less maintenance would be our ‘Bridal Buddy’, the ready-to-pee-spanx. The ‘Bridal Buddy’ is now every Bride’s secret and is hitting the international tastes by storm. Get your Bridal Buddy Helper at www.everythingandwedding.co.za
How do we tell our guests their kids honestly aren’t welcome at our wedding? Clearly write the guest names on the invite. You could also write a little note tactfully explaining that kids are regrettably not invited due to space limitation or cost. It’s important to make your boundaries clear, so guests can comply with your preferences.
What is a wedding planner’s purpose? Wedding planners work differently, so communicate with him/her of your requirements and preferences. Go with what works for you! Wedding planners generally align the logistics and duties in planning and on your wedding day. Tasks can include: Designing the day and lighting up your wedding vision or theme, directing suppliers, answering questions from suppliers, keeping to time on the day, scheduling the day etc. Trust is important – for the wedding planner will work with your budget and contracts. It’s important to source a reputable wedding planner so ask questions like: How long has your wedding planning company existed? Where are you based? How many weddings do you do a year or per day? How is your commission charged? How soon can we meet to discuss the wedding services? How available are you? Do you have testimonials about your company? Have you done a wedding at my chosen venue? When should I book your services? What makes your company unique? – a wedding planner is not crucial to the success of your wedding day or life together, but a wedding planner will definitely take care of your logistics and perhaps even your wedding emotions. A wedding planner can potentially lighten your wedding preparation load.
What is a wedding venue contract? A wedding venue contract is a legal agreement between you and your chosen venue which includes specific information such as wedding date, décor, suppliers, props, what the venue providers, insurance proof, costs, overtime fees, deposit due and dates, cancellation/refund policy – to name a few. Wedding venue contracts have small fine print – read these. Discuss set up and set down times. What happens if your reception party goes over the allocated time schedule? Are there additional charges like valet parking or restroom attendants? Does the venue have an exclusive supplier vendor list? Is gratuity expected? Does the venue offer any limitations? Ensure you’ve covered every single detail of the contract because 2 days before your wedding, you don’t want to find out that your chosen venue does not have an alcohol license as this could be a party dampener.
What needs to be included on the wedding invite? Seems like a simple question, BUT we have experienced Brides in the past who have forgotten to print the venue name or date on the wedding invite, and only realised after all the wedding invitations have all been printed. Remember to include: Venue. Date. Time. Place. Map/directions. Dress code (cocktail attire/black tie/beachwear/casual/jackets etc.).
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How do I match Wedding Jewellery to my wedding dress? Different metals work with different shades of colours.
White gown: Silver or platinum compliment a white dress.
Ivory gown: Rose Gold or Gold jewellery accentuates the stunning levels of an ivory dress.
Champagne gown: Rose Gold or Gold jewellery compliments a champagne tone.
Blush gown: Rose gold is stunning because the pink hue in the metal compliments the gentle pinkness of the dress.
Tips: Be guided by the style of the dress. A V-neck wedding dress style is best complimented by a pendant necklace or choker. Pair it with dangling earrings. A halter neck dress is often best complimented by a draping back necklace or hairpins, but especially a birdcage veil. Add in bangles to balance the accessorised look.
Be guided by the beads on the dress (if there are any beads on your dress) to guide the hue shades of the accessories. Choose a necklace, bangle or earrings with the same metal base as the beads. Most of all, have fun choosing – your selection is huge!
If you’re opting for a vintage/antique inspiring style, choose burnished silver with diamante or rhinestones.
What dress style suits my body shape?
- I’m pear-shaped: A skirt style from the waist to the floor is a good option to narrow the midsection, but also to distract from the hips and thighs. Go for a fabric that is not clinging. Remember that a V neck or spaghetti strap bodice shows a slender upper body.
- I’m busty: A scoop or sweetheart neckline is your best compliment. Remember that sheen fabrics (silk, satin, organsa) or ruche will actually accentuate the bust area.
- I’m plus-size: Go for an A-skirt, with the line beginning under the bust, flowing to the floor. Flow is the key – not a clingy fabric, but not a loose fabric which can have an adverse effect. Stay away from pleats.
- I’m apple shaped: A wedding dress which is small on the upper bodice and then flares into an A shape is a good option. Look for the upper bodice of ruche or lace. Corset is a great option! A V-neckline is a great option too.
- I have a boyish figure: Opt for a ball-gown dress with a fitted upper bodice. The fullness of the dress makes you appear curvier.
- I have an hourglass figure: Mermaid style wedding dresses compliment your shape. The skirt hugs your hips and thighs, tapering, and then flaring at the knee. Great for showing off your curves.
- I am petite: Column is a great option for petite brides because the style follows the body’s natural line and doesn’t flare out, but does add length.
What’s the appropriate order of the ceremony procession? Yikes! Who walks first and with who down the aisle? It’s not as complicated as it sounds. The Groom and Groomsmen walk to the front of the church first. Then Bridesmaids walk from the back of the church to the front of the church, followed by the Maid of Honour. They’re followed by the Pageboy and then the Flowergirl. Then the Bride and usually the Bride’s Father will walk down the aisle together. If you’re in a church facing the altar then the Bride usually stands on the left and the Groom on the right. Traditionally, the Groom’s family sit on the side of the church he stands on and the Bride’s family on the other side. Shared friends should sit on the side with less people. However, recently, ‘pick a seat, not a side’ is the contemporary option. Prepare through a wedding rehearsal prior to your wedding day, with an informal and casual wedding rehearsal, so your team will know where to stand/sit and what to do.
Who lifts my veil? Traditionally Brides would wear the veil covering her face and then the Bride’s Father would lift the veil when he gave the Bride to her future husband. Or another option would be for the Groom to lift the veil when he kisses the Bride. However, contemporarily, more Brides choose to wear the veil tossed back for the whole ceremony.
Is there a proper way to kiss at the ceremony? Yes, just be natural. Social etiquette would say the kiss shouldn’t involve the tongue and should last less than 10 seconds. But of course, if you choose to do the dip and snog longer, do what you’re both comfortable with.
A speech for who and when? Again, tradition would say that the Master of Ceremony introduces the Bestman and it’s the Bestman’s duty to ask everyone (except Bride and Groom) to stand. The Bestman gives the first toast to the Bride and Groom (just before the main meal is served at the reception) focusing on the Bride and Groom’s future happy life together and wishing them health, wealth and prosperity. How the Bestman chooses to run with his speech is at his discretion, it can be humorous and fun, or it can be sweet and short. Once the Bestman’s speech is finished, he raises his glasses and encourages other guests to raise their glasses. Other guests can give toasts too at this point… But remember the rumble in the guest’s tummies as they wait for main meals. Bride and Groom can then rise to give thanks.
Do we really need to feed the wedding planner, DJ or band and photographer? Yes. Most of them will actually put in their contracts. However, offering them to eat is a kind gesture too. Check with your venue or catering supply because often these plates might be half price, compared to your guests.
Does the wedding to do list ever end? …Now it’s all over, when do we send the thank you letters and what should they say? Punctuality is important. After your engagement party thank you notes are usually sent within 1 month. For pre-wedding gifts, send the thank you note before the wedding. For wedding gifts received at your wedding, send a thank you note within 12 weeks. For wedding gifts received after the wedding, send a thank you note within 3 weeks. Say something genuine and courteous on the note. Make some mention of the: Gift name (don’t mention the amount if it’s monetary), how you’d use it and your gratitude.